Shamelessly stolen from Zach Tellman of https://ideolalia.com/.
Premise / my interpretation: it’s useless to judge utility abstracted from context.
I suggest we separate our statements between definitions and experience reports. A definition defines a concept as crisply as possible. An experience report applies a set of definitions to a problem, shares the effects, and judges their desirability.
Don’t push an abstraction on your friends without qualification. You can only do that if you’re a tyrant. Don’t be a tyrant.
Rather, when you want to introduce an abstraction, consider why it’s useful. Build up a nexus of examples. Then ask your friends to judge for themselves.